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Dear Sa,
I had hoped someone with the same difficulty (and cured of it) would have had some thoughts for you. I think it is a good sign that doctors have not found anything they are concerned about, though it is frustrating to be left with no solution. I will suggest few things that I would try. First of all, if you don't do them already, try Kegal exercises. All ladies should be doing them anyway, and it might stregthen things up. You should work up to 100 per day. It won't hurt and might help. If your pelvic floor is relaxed or lacking tone, and this causes the problem, this could help.
Also, there are two herbs that are especially indicated for bladder issues. They can be helpful to tone the bladder, among other bladder difficulties. These herbs are cornsilk and Uva Ursi. You could make a tea or take supplements with these things. (With the Uva Ursi, one herbalist says you should take it with marshmallow root. ) Even if you don't find anyone using these herbs for your particular difficulty, because they are so helpful for a variety of bladder conditions, it would be worth a try. I was taking Red Raspberry for many months for pregnancy and found it helped prolapsed bladder very much. Herbs often help quickly, but sometimes need a good amount of time to bring healing. I would give it a few months before giving up if you should try one or the other. Neither herb is recommended in pregnancy and both are diuretic, just so you know. If you decide to go the tea route, take a least a pint of tea a day. If you take supplements, take whatever is recommended on the supplement you buy.
For the more immediate difficulty this is causing to you skin, I would look into getting a peri bottle. They are very inexpensive and so helpful for cleaning. Many hospitals give them to ladies healing after birth. After emptying your bladder, you use the peri bottle of water to rinse yourself (and then pat dry with toilet paper). You can add a couple of drops of lavender essential oil to the bottle to aid in healing. Overnight you might use coconut oil topically to reduce/heal irritation to your skin.
Please let us know what you find that helps you!
~Mama to Many~
