Last Modified on Feb 21, 2014
Achieve Anger Management Through Natural Means
Although everyone becomes angry at many points in their lives, are you one of those people that allow anger to get the better of them? Today’s stressful lifestyle often provokes individuals to a point where anger management becomes an issue for virtually everyone. The dangerous part of anger, however, is that it can become a health issue that can lead to serious or even lethal consequences.
Studies have shown a link between anger and disease, indicating that even individuals who have normal blood pressure had a greater risk of developing coronary artery disease or have a heart attack.? This tendency makes controlling you anger even more important.
Uncontrolled anger may not simply be your fault, or a matter of controlling your emotions. Sometimes individuals have chemical imbalances in the brain or nutritional deficits in the body that affect the way we deal with stress and intense emotions. Fortunately, a number of natural remedies are available to help correct deficiencies and imbalances and may be used in conjunction with anger management programs.
Holistic Treatment for Anger
B-vitamins and herbal remedies such as Passiflora incarnata, skullcap or even flower essences can help calm you and may be beneficial in mood management. Some commercial homeopathic remedies also target mood management. Herbs affecting hormone imbalances can be effective in women suffering severe PMS.
Diet can be another effective control in anger management. Spicy and sour foods can feed anger as well as substances that stress the liver, including black tea, caffeine, coffee, soda, tobacco and alcohol. Natural supplements used in conjunction with soothing activities such as meditation tai chi, yoga, qi gong and other martial arts can be an effective means of anger management.
Read on below for more tips from our readers or send us your own anger management remedies!
Anger Management Remedies
10/17/2013: Baylamer from Skokie, Il: "Hi,LOVE this site! I have learned so much. Does anyone have any suggestions for dealing with irritability? Most of the time I want to punch holes in walls and rip off people's heads - even over the least little things. Obviously I control myself, but I hate feeling this way. It is so hard to enjoy life when I am feeling this nearly constant irritablitly.
10/17/2013: ExerciseLover from Berkeley, Ca replies: "I commend you for wanting to get ahold of your anger issues. I can relate. Years ago as a young thirty something year old, nasty comments would pour forth from my mouth during my commute into and out of San Francisco during rush hour. I would suprise myself with how much rage I had directed at strangers.
After my girlfriend at the time pointed out that I had a problem, I decided to do something about it. I started to work the anger out of my system every day at the gym. I got a personal trainer who was an ex boxer and trained me on the punching bag. After a few months of regular rigorous training, my anger dissipated. Yes, it took a few months. Some people might tell you to try supplements and pscyhologists, but in my opinion you need to exercise until you feel peaceful. And if and when the toxic emotions well up again, you go back to gym or go for an arduous hike. Move it through, don't let it out, is what I tell my kids now when they get angry. Good luck."
10/18/2013: Mike 62 from Denver, Colorado replies: "Baylamer: I am a cranky old goat who needs to sweeten up. This is why I am always eating a whole lot of my favorite delicase, sugar. You and I we are not bad people. We have a nutritional deficiency, like Scrooge in the Christmas Carol. I learned everything from my favorite coach, the banana girl. I watched her videos. There are four beneficial substances we need, enzymes, bioactive minerals, sugar, and kangan water that radiates far infrared waves. All these are in raw organic fruit. Raw fruit has enzymes. Organic fruit has 3 times as many minerals as conventionally grown fruit. Bananas and dates have the most sugar. After I eat a bunch of raw organic fruit I admire everybody's proficiency, appreciate everybody's effort and respect everybody's decisions. That is why I am a very popular social butterfly with a lot of interesting people in my life."
10/18/2013: Nanowriter from Hotspot, Texas replies: "Try upping your B vitamins, especially B3 (niacin) and magnesium as well. I also found it useful to stop and try to figure out why I was becoming angry--was I hungry, tired, trying to do too much in too little time, etc."
10/18/2013: Kt from Usa replies: "Hi Baylamer, you should stop eating 100% whole wheat bread, if that's what you eat, and add powdered ginger to whatever foods you eat for starters."
10/18/2013: Dave from Fountain Inn, Sc replies: "Hello Baylamer from Skokie:
In re: Irritability
What a great question and also a great confession.
You've taken the first BIG step in getting control of the problem and that is self recognition. That honesty opens the way for a solution.
1. Is the problem of irritability lifelong or has it worsened in the last few years? If it has worsened in the last five years, then it is at least partially caused by fatigue. Your adrenal system is depleted and as such the whole endocrine system is impacted. With hormones out of balance you literally cannot control you reactions. A police officer can easily become endocrine impacted in 15 years. If a male, he should get testosterone supplements AND adrenal glandular pills. A mother who is going to school at night and at the same time is seeing marriage problems, needs an endocrine panel test. She will definitely need adrenal glandular, and maybe thyroid supplements etc.
2. Next in importance of depletion: Magnesium. I am an advocate of Epsom salts baths and oral supplementation of magnesium. Heat up two cups of ESalts in hot water on stove. Then run a very warm bath and pour dissolved salts into bath water. Soak for twenty minutes. Repeat every other day for at least a total of three. In the "old days" our great grand mothers would comment upon encountering an irritated person, "He needs his salts. " That mean the irritated person needed his Epsom salts/ magnesium baths. The transformation can be remarkable. In just a week, you can go from a mad man to a happy and mellow person. The herb valerian is also a help, not only in sleeping but drink it during the day to just "chill."
3. Consider your "situation" in life. If you are living under extreme strain then consider your "life situation. " Example: In my office a few weeks ago I had a couple I was counseling with. In their late twenties their lives had been filled with drama. Both had come from previous marriages and one had maxed out the family credit cards... Not on necessities. I instructed them as follows: "Place a sign on your refrigerator that says, 'I will not blame you and I will not blame myself. ' " Next I offered them a one hundred dollar prize if they would do the following for only five days: After supper they would turn off ALL electronics in the house that created "noise. " For one hour they would sit in their living room and read or just talk. But the talking had to be positive with no negative about anything. They didn't have to talk. They were to try to just enjoy each other's company... even if no words were exchanged.
I have found an amazing relationship between ambient anger... and electronic noise. There must be times of peace... quietness when the spirit can rest. Children can be trained to love such times... when the parents aren't screaming at the kids to be quiet and someone turns the TV even louder to over come the screaming.
The couple I counseled with could not even complete the second night of "one hour of peace."
4. Irritability is almost always associated with lack of exercise. Not exercising at the blare of rock music at the gym. I mean a thirty minute walk in the evening. I find when I walk alone at night I pray for almost the whole time. I come back into the house refreshed and happy.
5. Memorize and repeat: "Be anxious for nothing (don't be anxious about anything), but by prayer and supplication make your requests known unto God. " And speaking of God, if you are a Christian, really if I am exploding in "fits" then I ask myself, "Now would the Lord approve of screaming at that driver like I just did? I then breathe deeply and let my mind relax and chest muscles and shoulders relax, and ask Him to forgive me and fill me anew with His Spirit. " There's nothing like BEING forgiven that lets me forgive myself. And irritation can be based on... Anger at myself even more than anger at others or circumstances. The Christian cannot be controlled by circumstances but actually "give thanks in all things, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. " My irritation/anger level vanishes when I "reckon" that truth as a reality in me. After all, if I am His, and I am, then the responsibility is on Him to take care of me and deal with the problems thrown at me and all I have to do is do all I can, and let him make my work.... Work. Blessed rest. It is paradoxically the "work" of faith.
Irritation/anger/prejudice/frustration/pride...it all vanishes. "I must decrease, He must increase."
10/18/2013: Baylamer from Skokie, Il replies: "Thanks for the comments! I am already gluten free and dairy free. I am currently detoxing from mercury poisoning via the Andrew Cutler protocol. I have the mthfr gene and am taking Methy B12 vitamins (along with several other types of Bs) as well as Deplin (basically medicinal levels of folate) - people with the mthfr gene don't methyloate (sp?) well. Then I take TMR (type of betaine) and charcoal to help escort the extra homoscyteine out of the body (homocysteine produced by not enough folate - that is what I have read). The Deplin has helped a lot with depression, but I am still darned irritable. I have no emotional reserves. Someone recommended burdock for anger issues, and I just started taking that today.
I do agree I need to exercise more - very hard to do as a single mom. I'll just have to work harder to make time to do this. I'll post again after a few days on the burdock. Thanks again for the suggestions!"
10/18/2013: Prioris from Fl, Usa replies: "I admire you for recognizing the problem and making an effort to address it. Many irritable people just don't care if they bludgeon other people.
There is something called tapping. It involves tapping certain accupuncture points. I'd study that and other body energy manipulating techniques. You may find something very simple that you can do to release your irritability. I'd also consider visiting a real shaman or psychic involved in energy systems who may be able to find a source for it."
10/18/2013: Debbie T. from Australia replies: "I have a book on excitotoxins. I think I remember reading that they can cause anger issues. Both MSG and aspartame. MSG has many other names as well. I remember at the time thinking that is probably why we are seeing so many angry drivers on the road.
Another thought, even though you are gluten free are you having a lot of gluten free products? They contain starches that will raise your blood glucose levels rather high. Also too many carbohydrates would also raise blood sugar.
Since I went wheat & grain free, with limited carbohydrates, my diet is high in fats which seem to have a soothing effect on me. I feel so much more peaceful and relaxed.
Many parents with kids going grain free (not just gluten free) have also said their children's behavior & anger issues either vanished or were greatly reduced."
10/18/2013: Kt from Usa replies: "It is important that you take B-Complex with the ones you take because not taking all of the B's causes a deficiency in the others. I only take a B-Complex once in awhile because I eat limited amounts of meat and eggs, sometimes twice a day.
I have to mention that I too got angry at everything all the time but once I started weeding hidden sources of MSG out of my diet I noticed a difference. MSG is a nerve stimulant and I used to be easily angered.
I could not eat plain yogurt without getting angry at virtually nothing. My daughter brought this to my attention when she was around six. I know you said you were dairy-free but do you eat anything that contains any corn, soy or whey ingredients? Do you take many supplements?
The binders and fillers in supplements/vitamins contributed to my anger. Capsules contain 11 to 13 mg of MSG. I have to get powdered magnesium. It is important to know absorption of magnesium may be inhibited by calcium.
Seriously, if your doctor has given you a clean bill of health, you need to find out what you are ingesting that could be contributing to your anger. It seems you may be getting more nerve stimulants in your diet than you can handle (It happened to me). I used to get migraines so bad I'd vomit. I used to have fits of rage. Eating habits are hereditary and you want to help your little one(s) while you are in more control of what is eaten.
This is being prepared piecemeal. Both of my babies were breech but only one was caesarean. I cannot sit here very long.
Our food supply has been tainted and has become very hard to digest (the binders and fillers come from the GMO plants). I cannot eat raw fruits or vegetables. I was a big meat eater but because the animals we eat or get milk and eggs from are being fed GMO grasses and grains I had to reduce my consumption. This was good because it helped me get my weight back down.
I mentioned "ginger"... Ginger contains an antidepressant ingredient. Sometimes I take 1/8 tsp of ginger and 1/8 tsp turmeric together in a little warm water but I sprinkle both on a variety of food. I only use sea salt because the flowing agent in commercial salt contributes to inflammation. My arthritis, backaches, and sciatica ceased when I changed my diet.
There is no one-size-fits-all remedy because everyone eats different and can tolerate different varieties of food. I hope some of this information helps you."
10/18/2013: Tim from Ga replies: "I have found out the hard way that Monosodium Gludamate(MSG) has a very nasty affect on my mood and has caused rage that is shamefull. This garbage is in more and more processed food to a staggering about. It is horrible for children to eat this too. I have a bag full of food items that are going back to the store cause I failed to read the label, but you have to do it with out fail to know it's not in a product, but now thier are other names for it to disguise it. Some want to say it's natural and occurs in food anyway, so why add more? To make products addictive."
10/19/2013: Kt from Usa replies: "For Mike62 from Denver: We have been lied to about the safety of our food. The medical profession is not keeping up with what is being done to the food. I used to have such a problem with anger and depression but over the last twenty years I have learned it was caused by what I was eating. Our food supply has been engineered to last longer and assimilation is difficult. If food is cooked too long MSG is created. If it is not cooked long enough it cannot be digested and can contribute to indigestion or constipation. Raw fruit is harder to digest. Either way, uncontrollable anger can result. Learning how what foods need to be cooked to what degree is difficult. "Organic" is no longer safe. Here is a link for you: http://naturalsociety.com/admittedly-illegal-genetically-modified-soil-fungus-present-in-organic-products/"
10/19/2013: Mike 62 from Denver, Colorado replies: "Kt: Yes, you are on the right track. The info was incomplete. The article stated that the gmo was for infant formulas and the decision was reversed in April of 2010. Raw fruit is not harder to digest. Nutrients are not bioavalable when locked in cellulose, like carrots and baby leaves. Nutrients in green smoothies made from baby leaves and juiced carrots are bioavailable. Cooking denatures valuable enzymes. Nutrients in hawaiin spirulina are bioavailable because spirulina does not contain any cellulose. Spirulina is wild harvested so is neither conventional or organic. David Wolfe says wild harvested nutrients have 10 times the potency as organic nutrients. Organic has 3 times the minerals as conventional and contains humic acids. Raw food has 3 times the electrical energy as cooked food as seen through a tesla scope. Please google raw food videos for verification. Thank you."
10/19/2013: Kt from Usa replies: "This is for Dave from Fountain Inn: Weeding out the hidden sources of MSG, taking magnesium and ginger... I do not get angry anymore. If you have seen some of my other posts, I used to have a terrible temper... Fits of rage outbursts. My husband (also Dave) still eats some things he shouldn't but because I know this I am able to be the one who is now more self-controlled. Knowing James 1:19&20 should be enough, but when nerves are over stimulated it's hard. What is being done to the food can cause over stimulation of nerve cells. I am speaking from experience... What I have learned and am convinced of. It has been a difficult road with multiple tragedies... Small is the gate and narrow the road... you'll know them by their Fruit."
10/20/2013: Mesem from France replies: "You are so right. Get away from the electrical gear and get exercise out where there is space and green things. Walking, running, cycling, swimming. Prepare yourself so that you are comfortable. Don't give yourself a limit or goal just go with how you feel put be prepared to push a little if you are unfit. I always find that I want to go 'round the next corner' after I've got to the tree to see the view or.... Open conversation in a context where you are under no obligation is important too."
10/20/2013: Kathy from L A replies: "My husband takes GABA from the health food store. One pill a day make him much less irritable."
02/21/2014: Hermiticwonderer from Los Angeles, Ca replies: "Wow you got some awesome responses! Go Earth Clinic! :D
Just wanted to add - I dealt with an intense anger, everything made me mad, everyone made me mad, I could not handle the circumstance of life.
I recommend looking up Stuart Wilde and purchasing a copy of his book Infinite Self. It really truly helped me and my boyfriend so much. Completely changed our perspective (which is the actual problem :)! ) on life. You can get it on amazon for a penny + Shipping :)
Also, not sure if you are an alcohol drinker but when I stopped drinking 4 1/2 years ago things got 1000% better in regards to anger and irritability!
Just think - it can only get BETTER from here!!"
05/04/2010: Gean from Salina, Ks: "Has anyone had any success in anger management? I know someone who gets angry a lot, and cannot stop. Even if you can manage to control your words and actions, the angry feelings can not be good for the health. Any suggestions? (Maybe "anger" can be added to ailments)"Replies
05/07/2010: T from Maryland, Usa replies: "This will be my broken record until I die *lol* but here goes: everything starts with the diet! (And supplements if necessary - whatever it takes to get the proper nutrients in). Being ill for some time, my anger control was poor, and anger was actually present much more than before simply because I felt so awful all the time and my body wasn't able to take even the smallest stressor anymore. I really hated myself because it seemed like I couldn't get the control over it that I wanted to. Even when I didn't express it, it would tear me up inside. And you're right, that isn't healthy; it's downright physically and emotionally harmful. Once I cleaned up my diet and started to correct deficiencies, I started being able to level out much better. I think what has helped the most is taking a B-complex every day. I not only have greatly improved anger control, but I am not just "holding it in", either. I honestly don't feel it so much anymore. I'm not nearly as easily irritated as I used to be, and wow, what a relief that is! I can let a lot of things ride, and with this awareness and a deliberate aim towards practicing mindfulness, it's just getting better all the time.
A note - I found that when I took a liquid B-complex, I actually would get irritable. Taking a capsule (and it was actually the same brand!) worked great, however. If you don't see success with one brand or form, try another. But try to be consistent. If I stop the B-complex, it isn't long before my nerves start going downhill again.
Apart from supplements, leafy green veggies, eggs, and brewer's yeast, among other things, provide lots of B vitamins. And of course, dumping processed 'food' and artificial colors and sweeteners, avoiding MSG, etc. can only help."
05/10/2010: Robert from Martinez, Ca replies: "Regarding anger management, the diet suggestions are correct & helpful especially the B-complex which helps the liver. In Chinese medicine, anger comes from a hot,(inflammed), liver. I have personally used burdock root for this & it does work for me.The only side effects I know of are lowering the blood sugar levels & that depends on the amount used. I use the dried, cut root avail at most herb stores or the fresh root, called 'Gobo'by the Japanese is avail at asian markets.For the dried, I use 2-tbsps,prox, per quart of water & lightly boil covered for about 10-15 mins.There are plenty of other 'liver' herbs like dandelion, etc. but burdock works well for me & its also a great spring tonic."
05/21/2010: Gean from Salina, Ks replies: "Thank you for your replies. I have a question for T from Maryland. Could you please tell me what brand of B complex you used, whether it was a tablet or capsule, and whether it was time-release or not? There are several different kinds. Thank you very much."
05/21/2010: T from Maryland, Usa replies: "Hi Gean,
Twinlab B-50 in capsule form is the one I've been using that works fine for me. It's not time-released. I usually only take one daily as I've upped my intake of B-containing foods (I also take extra B12, the methylcobalamin form, in a sublingual tablet). You can take more than one -- you might try one with each meal, for instance. I've actually just run out and might try another brand as I like to experiment a bit. If there's anything significant to report on that front, I'll update here.
Robert - interesting info on the burdock root, thank you. When you make up the quart you mentioned, how much do you take, and how do you store the rest?"
06/20/2010: London from Op, Ks replies: "Thanks for this thread regarding anger. I have noticed that somehow my daughter and I are attracting conflict, and from the law of attraction concept, I thought we were having negative thoughts, etc., but no, not really, we're not. I am now of the belief that it is diet related. I was of the belief that fat was bad, carbs were good, ala 1980's fat-free diets that were presented to us ad nauseum, and as a result, we consumed way too many carbs, and since the 90's, we've been trying to figure the whole diet thing out. I think we are there ... eliminating sugar, eliminating wheat ... if not total elimination at this point, definitely crowding out. Dairy soon to follow. Adding greens, fruits, vegs, etc. Drinking kombucha. However, there must be something within us that is attracting conflict wherever we go! It's really noticeable ... be it road rage, office conflicts, relationship conflicts ... maybe it's this world we live in, and not really our diets.
If anyone has any input at all to this thought, I would love to hear it. I'm really at a loss. Thank you so much. Be well!"
06/29/2010: Lisa Bee from Marathon, Fl replies: "Remedy: pray for those that hurt you, use you, do wrong to you. Doing this, it will help you more than it helps them, because forgiveness and love are very powerful.
It cures hate and disgust for society in general. I know, because I do it. It may take many times, but it is worth it. After a while, you may see that people will always be people and it's not our job to change them, leave that to prayer. :)"
07/09/2010: Londonbluue from Overland Park, Kansas replies: "Lisa Bee, Thank you for the lovely response. In 2006, I read that we must bless the people who have hurt us, whom we have issues with. I have been attempting to do that, as I remember, since that time. I think it must be time to step it up and pray in earnest rather than only offering a blessing to those who wound me. It is baffling when I feel serene and in harmony, kind, even going about my day and then am faced with some conflict. Thank you, again, Lisa Bee."
04/11/2011: Sophia from Lr, Ar replies: "I wanted to add that alot of foods contain mercury ie: HFCS and it is in things you would not imagine need sugar! Heavy metal build up may cause anger issues. Cilantro is a good chelater (removes heavy metal toxins). Search for cilantro heavy metal detox with chlorella. Very tasty drops from planetary herbals brand."
02/08/2012: Will from Lima, Peru replies: "Anger; I agree our diets rule a lot of our well being. Also our rest, or lack of it. (Due to poor diet?) We all have a physical side, and also a spiritual side. We need balance in our lives in all areas. We can have a healthy physical body, but if we neglect our spiritual side we are out of balence. Look for the root of your anger condition. Anger is a "secondary" response to fear, or confusion. Anger protects our heart from being hurt again. As in medicine, doctors many times treat "symptoms", but never get to the "root", and our condition continues. What "triggers" your anger? A spiritual adviser helped me to find that "public humiliation" was my trigger. When I was a child I was humiliated in front of the class by the teacher. I wanted to kill that person. I held resentment in my heart for almost 30 years for the teacher that hurt me. Wow! Unforgiveness holds us in prison, not the person we are angry at. When we forgive, we set ourselves free. Is it easy? No, its not. But do you really want to mix a poison for someone else, and then drink it yourself? This is what unforgiveness, & resentment really are, poison for your heart, mind, & soul. Part of you is not free to enjoy life. If Someone has already hurt you emotionally, do you want to let them continue to control you spiritually, emotionally forever? Set yourself free. I did."
05/17/2012: Serach from Boston, Ma replies: "I have had a terrible anger problem for most of my life. Recently, I had found myself yelling and breaking dishes. The anger felt very physical- like it was primarily coming from stress, I was very irritable and also would cry uncontrollably, often i'd rage, then cry then rage etc.
Its ok to cry of course, but I find I often get lost in it , drown in it and just cant stop.
The woman in the nutrition section suggested hylands nerve tonic, it's homeopathic and is not counterindicated by meds etc. It contains 500 pills and cost $16 . Maybe you can get it even cheaper over the net.
Since I started taking it I have had only one angry outburst in about 3 weeks even despite being exhausted and in a lot of pain, and far less crying. I am amazed at how much it helped. I highly recommend it."
[YEA] 02/24/2013: Kim from St. Louis, Mo: "I have started my B compex again and u r right, I am not so quick at being angry... And this statment is true because I started 4 days ago and this is the first time on this site... I was able to sit with co-workers and not have to get angry about what was being said for a whole week!!!"
08/23/2012: Jeroen from Amsterdam, Nh Netherlands: "Anger and liver are closely related. Liver cleandsing is most effective and simple to do, giving many more benefits than just anger releive. Google "liver cleanse" and be amazed of this simple healing. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q52JKIzBJ8s"Replies
04/15/2013: Andrea C from Cardiff, Wales replies: "jeroen xxx Thanks for your suggestions. I would like to add, that MEDS and people around you can make you really angry too! The thing is, being Human, we tend to allow the people that wind us up, put MEGA STRESS on us. When you're ill, you get afraid to push them out of your life, because they're the ONLY people you have contact with. Then you get ANGRY, with yourself for allowing them to sabotage your efforts to get well. I can't do a lot, but, I bought some paper and water coulour paints."
Low Carb Diet
04/07/2012: Lecia from Copenhagen, Denmark: "A Low carb or very low carb diet should help with anger management and mood disorders, especially if starting slowly. It takes time for the body to get used to less sugar, and every time it lacks it there may be anger, and feeling good again when having sugar, just like a roller-coaster. The body has to adapt to a moderate amount of sugar."