Ear Mite Remedies

Well I first started with the suggestion of using drops of Vegetable oil to loosen up the infection in my cats ears. Massaged it in, let her shake, then used cotton swabs and balls to clean the ear. After that I proceeded with rubbing the vaseline in her ear with my finger and not really down into the upper canal. I let her be and now her ears hurt even more and she's really groggy and miserable. I don't know where I went wrong, if she has an allergy to any of the products, or something else. Her ears are really really pink and she's just now in alot of pain. Should I wait it out or bring her to the vet immediately? I've never seen her more miserable in my life, it really saddens me... I need help!