Server in restaurant needs help with anxiety

Posted By Leah (Madison, Wi) on 08/13/2011

I recently took on a job as a server at a very busy, trendy restaurant for the first time. Since then, I've woken up several times throughout the night, every night, because I feel like I'm still at work--i. e. I think I forget drink orders or I need to print a ticket. I actually walk around my house, change clothes, etc. because of it. I've been on sleeping pills before and wish not to ever go on them again, I'm taking 5 mg of quick dissolving melatonin every night as well, I listen to soothing music on the drive home and wind down once I get home, I also supplement with magnesium once a day. I'm not really sure what else I can do? A doctor has ruled out anxiety meds and actually recommended I go back on Zoloft (I said no I wish never to be on that again. I'd be grateful for any recommendations.
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Replied by Ryanioc (Vancouver, Bc, Canada) on 08/13/2011

Two things I highly recommend is meditation and the Sota Bio Tuner which is based on cranial electrotherpy stimulation.

For meditation, go here: http://www.aypsite.org/10.html

follow in order, the actual instructions on the method are on the 4th page or page 13, you can also buy the book series by yogani, profits go to charity.

The benefits of daily meditation are pretty incredible and should be the first line of treatment for anxiety and stress related symptoms, as it calms and quiets the mind which is exactly what you are after.

The bio tuner helped me greatly with anxiety related symptoms from stemmed from prolonged stress. Voltahealth. com has them available with a 4 payments plan or you can buy from sota directly.

If you do decide to try it, it usually takes about 3-4 weeks before you start to really feel some change, things just seem to get easier. It took me 5 weeks before I felt that 80% improvement, and 3 weeks before I started to notice some positive benefit.

After about 5 weeks, I could read again. I could not concentrate on anything I was reading before this, it helped me focus greatly, calmed down my overactive thinking.

This is also the only thing that reduced a nasty side effect of an ssri I was on for 5 years. This ssri made me sweat excessively. I tried countless natural products before stumbling upon this, and finally, my sweating returned to normal, except in extremely anxious moments which still occur occasionally. Overall my symptoms have decreased about 80% after using this.

The bio tuner supposedly works by regulating the hypothalamus region of the brain, which is a control center for many functions, including body temp and other hormone production.

I would also suggest upping your magnesium intake to about 600 or 800 mg/day.

Do you drink alot of coffee? If you do, reduce your intake to about 1 or 2 cups max a day. This will definetly make your mind race at night, I had the same problem.

You should try valerian root extract for sleeping at night, and you can also try kava kava for daytime use.

Whatever you do, stick to the natural remedies! Good luck

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Replied by Ti (Houston, Usa) on 08/13/2011

Leah,

Google 'pranic healing'. It is a godsend for Anxiety and Panic attacks. You can find someone who can do it for you in person or long distance.

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Replied by Bess (Calgary, Alberta, Canada) on 08/13/2011

Hi Leah - Have you tried taking GABA for anxiety? I take it before flying, interviews or any situation that induces stress. My Dad takes it because he gets anxious if he's too far from home - even if he's only at a shopping mall a few miles away (he's 89 years old so there are other issues too, I'm sure). There are many brands out there but I get mine from the health food store and it's by Natural Factors - 100% Natural GABA. It says "fast-acting relief for nervousness and acute stress" - 100 mg. I usually take two capsules if I know I will be in a stressful situation. Since it helps promote relaxation and ease tension, it might help you calm down at night.

Your description reminded me of a time (many, many years ago) when I had a job that affected my sleeping. I would wake up around 2:00 or 3:00 in the morning, bolt upright and yell, "*$#^* (those are swear words) WHAT TIME IS IT?! " I am surprised that I didn't give myself or my husband a heart attack. Oddly enough, we are still married!

I think, in part, it was because I was a perfectionist at the time (not any more) and felt responsible for too many things. I also tried to please everyone all of the time. I certainly wish I had GABA back then but I didn't know anything about alternative medicine. I did quit the job eventually.

If you don't want to take anything, try writing in a journal before you go to bed. Even if it's something like - "I work to the best of my ability. " Maybe that will take the load off of your mind. Check out EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) - there are free manuals on the Internet and demonstrations on YouTube. Good luck!

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Replied by Rob (Toronto, Ontario) on 08/13/2011

Hi Leah sorry to hear about your anxiety... it is an over worked and stressed state indeed when one carries work into their sleep and dreams...

If not working the late shift then perhaps there is time to catch an evening yoga class which would help tremendously ... If no time then breathwork, simple breathing exercises you can find online are effective... Also a good brisk walk. As far as herbs, or supplements, passionflower, can help... Also the scent of Jasmine... Quote from Weil site "Researchers have found that the scent of jasmine is as effective as Valium and similar drugs for relieving anxiety, promoting more peaceful sleep, and reducing anxiety upon waking. Particular jasmine fragrances were even shown to have the same neurochemical mechanism of action as barbiturates. "

- I've tried many "stress" products Gaba, Theanine and found I prefer the whole food/herb formulas instead. One is from MegaFood called Tension Release... pricey but I found it helped more than the others..

- also stay away from coffee

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Replied by Debbie (Melbourne, Australia ) on 08/14/2011

Leah try Niacin as per the attached article. Also if I were you I would up your magnesium uptake. It will help you sleep without the need for melatonin.

http://www.doctoryourself.com/hoffer_niacin.html

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