Replied by AC (West Midlands, England) on 07/14/2008
To Lost in Emotion: You may want to consider beginning meditation or taking some time out in the day for just you. It's very difficult when we're suffering and the people around us are suffering and we don't know that we're making each other suffer.
There may be a Buddhist center/centre near you. Check out: http://kadampa.org/en/centers/kadampa-buddhist-centers-worldwide-list/ or if you're not interested in going to a centre just consider reading the book Mindfulness in Plain English by Bhante H. Gunaratana. You don't have to be Buddhist to meditate.
Another book that a lot of people recommend is Self Matters by Dr Phil but it depends on how you feel about him!
If neither one of theses interests you, take some time out from making new friends and discover things within and out: what are your interests? What do you like to do? Do you want to go to a new country or take a new language? How about taking dancing, computers, art, writing, or martial arts? Build up your self-confidence and self-esteem and you'll begin to make new friends when you feel ready! Best of luck, hang in there and of course: Blessings!Replied by Joyce (Joelton, Tn) on 07/10/2008
To lost in Emotion: Hello, Sounds like you need a friend to talk to. Maybe you are dwelling too much on "what's wrong with me"? Maybe there is nothing wrong with you, and just maybe all those who you feel have deserted you, love you so much that it is painful to see you in such a dejected state, and need some distance and time to come to terms with the realization that you are not always going to be there for them. Not knowing your situation, I can only tell you the same thing I have told myself, when things looked the darkest. "OK, I've reached the end of my rope, so it's time to tie a big knot in it and hang on." My next bit of wisdom to myself during bad times is "When you hit rock bottom, there's no way to go but up". Instead of focusing on "what's wrong with me" try to think about "what's right with me". One thing I can tell you to start that list with is, "I am still mentally capable of going on-line and communicating with others". Another thing you might consider is that most places have an emergency hot line available 24hours a day, 7 days a week and they are there to talk with those who feel they have no one to talk to.Replied by Lost in Emotion on 07/11/2008
Thank You Joyce for taking the time. You are an Angel!!!Replied by Lost in emotion on 07/15/2008
I am at a loss for words that strangers can be so kind -- means so much! Thank you.Replied by Elsie (Columbus, Ohio) on 07/24/2008
I highly recommend reading The Power of Now and A New Earth, this helped me to forgive and to stop suffering.Replied by Rkymtsprt (Missoula, Mt, USA) on 10/29/2009
To "Lost in Emotion"...I know you have a name, and I need to tell you (whoever you are) that your bravery in reaching out to complete strangers has touched me deeply. Your pain is MY PAIN!! I strugggle with those questions...sometimes I truely believe I care too much. I realize one cannot go into too much detail here, but just know that you have a kindred spirit here: a woman alone, not so young anymore, who wishes we could connect somehow.
