Replied By T (Maryland, Usa) on 05/07/2010
This will be my broken record until I die *lol* but here goes: everything starts with the diet! (And supplements if necessary - whatever it takes to get the proper nutrients in). Being ill for some time, my anger control was poor, and anger was actually present much more than before simply because I felt so awful all the time and my body wasn't able to take even the smallest stressor anymore. I really hated myself because it seemed like I couldn't get the control over it that I wanted to. Even when I didn't express it, it would tear me up inside. And you're right, that isn't healthy; it's downright physically and emotionally harmful. Once I cleaned up my diet and started to correct deficiencies, I started being able to level out much better. I think what has helped the most is taking a B-complex every day. I not only have greatly improved anger control, but I am not just "holding it in", either. I honestly don't feel it so much anymore. I'm not nearly as easily irritated as I used to be, and wow, what a relief that is! I can let a lot of things ride, and with this awareness and a deliberate aim towards practicing mindfulness, it's just getting better all the time.
A note - I found that when I took a liquid B-complex, I actually would get irritable. Taking a capsule (and it was actually the same brand!) worked great, however. If you don't see success with one brand or form, try another. But try to be consistent. If I stop the B-complex, it isn't long before my nerves start going downhill again.
Apart from supplements, leafy green veggies, eggs, and brewer's yeast, among other things, provide lots of B vitamins. And of course, dumping processed 'food' and artificial colors and sweeteners, avoiding MSG, etc. can only help.
Replied By Robert (Martinez, Ca) on 05/10/2010
Regarding anger management, the diet suggestions are correct & helpful especially the B-complex which helps the liver. In Chinese medicine, anger comes from a hot,(inflammed), liver. I have personally used burdock root for this & it does work for me.The only side effects I know of are lowering the blood sugar levels & that depends on the amount used. I use the dried, cut root avail at most herb stores or the fresh root, called 'Gobo'by the Japanese is avail at asian markets.For the dried, I use 2-tbsps,prox, per quart of water & lightly boil covered for about 10-15 mins.There are plenty of other 'liver' herbs like dandelion, etc. but burdock works well for me & its also a great spring tonic.Replied By Gean (Salina, Ks) on 05/21/2010
Thank you for your replies. I have a question for T from Maryland. Could you please tell me what brand of B complex you used, whether it was a tablet or capsule, and whether it was time-release or not? There are several different kinds. Thank you very much.Replied By T (Maryland, Usa) on 05/21/2010
Hi Gean,
Twinlab B-50 in capsule form is the one I've been using that works fine for me. It's not time-released. I usually only take one daily as I've upped my intake of B-containing foods (I also take extra B12, the methylcobalamin form, in a sublingual tablet). You can take more than one -- you might try one with each meal, for instance. I've actually just run out and might try another brand as I like to experiment a bit. If there's anything significant to report on that front, I'll update here.
Robert - interesting info on the burdock root, thank you. When you make up the quart you mentioned, how much do you take, and how do you store the rest?
Replied By London (Op, Ks) on 06/20/2010
Thanks for this thread regarding anger. I have noticed that somehow my daughter and I are attracting conflict, and from the law of attraction concept, I thought we were having negative thoughts, etc., but no, not really, we're not. I am now of the belief that it is diet related. I was of the belief that fat was bad, carbs were good, ala 1980's fat-free diets that were presented to us ad nauseum, and as a result, we consumed way too many carbs, and since the 90's, we've been trying to figure the whole diet thing out. I think we are there ... eliminating sugar, eliminating wheat ... if not total elimination at this point, definitely crowding out. Dairy soon to follow. Adding greens, fruits, vegs, etc. Drinking kombucha. However, there must be something within us that is attracting conflict wherever we go! It's really noticeable ... be it road rage, office conflicts, relationship conflicts ... maybe it's this world we live in, and not really our diets. If anyone has any input at all to this thought, I would love to hear it. I'm really at a loss. Thank you so much. Be well!
Replied By Lisa Bee (Marathon, Fl) on 06/29/2010
Remedy: pray for those that hurt you, use you, do wrong to you. Doing this, it will help you more than it helps them, because forgiveness and love are very powerful.It cures hate and disgust for society in general. I know, because I do it. It may take many times, but it is worth it. After a while, you may see that people will always be people and it's not our job to change them, leave that to prayer. :)
Replied By Londonbluue (Overland Park, Kansas) on 07/09/2010
Lisa Bee, Thank you for the lovely response. In 2006, I read that we must bless the people who have hurt us, whom we have issues with. I have been attempting to do that, as I remember, since that time. I think it must be time to step it up and pray in earnest rather than only offering a blessing to those who wound me. It is baffling when I feel serene and in harmony, kind, even going about my day and then am faced with some conflict. Thank you, again, Lisa Bee.Replied By Sophia (Lr, Ar) on 04/11/2011
I wanted to add that alot of foods contain mercury ie: HFCS and it is in things you would not imagine need sugar! Heavy metal build up may cause anger issues. Cilantro is a good chelater (removes heavy metal toxins). Search for cilantro heavy metal detox with chlorella. Very tasty drops from planetary herbals brand.Replied By Will (Lima, Peru) on 02/08/2012
Anger; I agree our diets rule a lot of our well being. Also our rest, or lack of it. (Due to poor diet?) We all have a physical side, and also a spiritual side. We need balance in our lives in all areas. We can have a healthy physical body, but if we neglect our spiritual side we are out of balence. Look for the root of your anger condition. Anger is a "secondary" response to fear, or confusion. Anger protects our heart from being hurt again. As in medicine, doctors many times treat "symptoms", but never get to the "root", and our condition continues. What "triggers" your anger? A spiritual adviser helped me to find that "public humiliation" was my trigger. When I was a child I was humiliated in front of the class by the teacher. I wanted to kill that person. I held resentment in my heart for almost 30 years for the teacher that hurt me. Wow! Unforgiveness holds us in prison, not the person we are angry at. When we forgive, we set ourselves free. Is it easy? No, its not. But do you really want to mix a poison for someone else, and then drink it yourself? This is what unforgiveness, & resentment really are, poison for your heart, mind, & soul. Part of you is not free to enjoy life. If Someone has already hurt you emotionally, do you want to let them continue to control you spiritually, emotionally forever? Set yourself free. I did.