Lauren (Santa Cruz, CA) on 01/18/2009
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Replied By Shanewarn1980 (Atlanta, Ga, United States) on 01/15/2012
Many men believe that if they think about baseball or some other unconnected thought they would control their ejaculation. It is actually better if a man becomes more in tune with his body and learns to understand the signs and feelings that are associated with ejaculation. Once he learns to recognize the feelings he will be better able to control them and prolong his encounter.
Partners can work together to help the man recognize his points and stages of arousal and learn to back off. There are stages of sexual arousal that are felt at every part of the encounter. The trick to prolonging an encounter is to prolong the state of arousal that comes before the man reaches the point where he will not be able to control his ejaculation.
There are many methods that can be used to control ejaculation. The man must train himself to recognize the signs in his body and learn to back off. To do this he might want to practice the method slowly by himself first. He can concentrate on how his body is feeling at each stage, which will help him to recognize it when he is with a partner. When he has mastered the ability to control his ejaculation while he is alone he can begin practicing with his partner. For this method to begin to work, it is necessary for the focus to be on the man. This will allow him to concentrate on his feelings without being overly concerned for his partner's pleasure.
Once the feelings are understood and a greater understanding of the different phases of arousal and ejaculation are achieved, the couple will be able to move towards pleasing each other. An understanding partner is completely necessary for working on this problem. As you can see, putting aside her own pleasure to work on the problem that her partner is experiencing will lead to a more satisfying experience later.
Concentration on the entire body's experience during sex is key to dealing with a premature ejaculation problem. It can be overcome with patience and understanding for the pleasure of both parties. Don't become discouraged while you are working on the problem, it may take some time to work through. You will both experience a greater pleasure at the end of the day and that will lead to a fuller experience. Perhaps, spending some time on pleasing each other once the problem is worked through is a great way to further enhance your sexual experience.
Replied By Pghero (Los Angeles, California) on 03/10/2017